Is it okay to get an erection while performing/giving a lap dance?
You’d be right to assume that Male Strippers sometimes get an erection while giving a lap dance. After all, we’re only human. I myself have had to ‘tackle’ this predicament many times – Pun Intended – but is it appropriate and what do we do when it happens?
When has it happened with me?
I started in the industry as a gun-hoe young man filled with a kind of overbearing confidence, looking to meet girls more than anything. This lead me to think in a way that at the slightly hint of flirtatious behaviour, the cracken would unleash itself uncontrollably… if you know what I mean.
Over time and after gaining invaluable experience, I figured out what I needed to do to stay calm and flaccid when it was inappropriate to get an erection which evidently, was most of the time.
Now-days it’s rare that I accidentally get an erection while performing, even when I’m giving a lap dance on someone I find attractive.
Having said that, there is a scale of hardness to a penis that’s in the process of getting erect and if you can gain control over this scale, in my opinion, you are a master of the craft that is Male Stripping and will have every girl (and guy) that sees it wondering if it’s even real and how big it gets when it’s erect. If this has peeked your curiosity, I go deeper in to this ‘Scale’ further down.
Why it’s inappropriate and when it’s “acceptable”?
Why it’s Inappropriate:
Firstly, we are there to provide a professional service. There is a level unprofessionalism attached to the act of getting a full erection while performing.
There is an art to being a Male Stripper or Topless Waiter. There are so many things to master but there are some key things to keep in mind and here is one relating to this topic; you’re there to make the Bride-to-be, the Birthday girl, the newly divorced etc. feel wanted and special while performing various types of body roles and acrobatics. So getting an erection purely from attraction, so for one person but maybe not for another is kind of a double standard.
You could say that a part of being professional in our industry is treating everyone respectfully and equitably.
Now this is where it gets interesting…
When it’s acceptable:
There is another side to the coin that needs to be mentioned, that is that we come across women that like it… and want it.
It’s our jobs to gauge what moves/words/behaviours etc. that we can use and when they’re appropriate. It’s usually very easy to identify these women/men because they’ll more than likely be talking to you throughout the performance about things they’re liking about you and will more than likely be trying to touch you in an inappropriate manner the whole time. Shocking I know, but this is an occupational hazard and something that we all have to learn to manage.
I believe that it’s inappropriate the get a full erection while performing even for people like this and even though that’s exactly what they’re wanting and hoping for. It is an important part of the show to leave your audience wondering and wanting more.
It is acceptable however, in this case, to go slightly above ‘a full-semi’. This is the state where it’s just not erect enough to be completely upright but it’s still almost at its thickest while it hangs. This gives this type of customer the satisfaction but also leaves them wondering and wanting more, which is another integral part of ‘The Art of Being a Male Stripper’ – I think I just found the title of my next blog.
Is the opposite what we want?
No! Let’s be real here, no one has time for a flaccid and shriveled penis.
As a man, sometimes you just can’t get your penis to do what you want it to do. It works both ways. Maybe I’m giving too much away here but sometimes it just doesn’t go up at all and stays at its smallest. I use to get embarrassed when this would happen but in the years I have been performing, I have figured out that it doesn’t matter and no one cares as long as you show confidence and put on an entertaining show. This is a time when a larger than average sized penis does come in handy too.
As professionals, how do we avoid getting hard?
I’m about to give away some very rare trade secrets here! It’s all an illusion ladies but that doesn’t really matter, does it?
The trick is to master the ‘full-semi’. What do you mean by that I hear you ask, well here it is! The ‘full-semi’ was explained above but how to get a ‘full-semi’ is the art.
There are a few different techniques catered to personal preference:
For most of us, to achieve the best results you can combine both techniques 1 and 2, using the pump to pull all the available blood into the penis thus expanding it in length and girth, then use the mind during your performance to produce a ‘pumped up full-semi’.
Does Penis Size Matter?
This is another rabbit hole that we could penetrate deeply by getting into the age old debate about length and girth etc. but this would be a slight digression. Maybe I’ll write about this in the future but rather than deviating, you’ll have to settle for my views relating to our topic of discussion at hand.
In my experience, when it comes to sex it’s all about personal preference. But to each individual, I think we can all agree, that there is a ‘too small’, a ‘too big’ and there may even be ‘a perfect size’. There is a connection between this fact and the novelty of seeing the penis of your Male Stripper.
In my experience, when it comes to sex it’s all about personal preference. But to each individual, I think we can all agree, that there is a ‘too small’, a ‘too big’ and there may even be ‘a perfect size’. There is a connection between this fact and the novelty of seeing the penis of your Male Stripper.
You need to keep in mind that the very nature of Male Strippers, is that we’re a novelty, or at least we’re meant to have that affect. This is why we use fake tan, why we do push ups to pump up our muscles before walking out into a room full of women and men, and why some of us pump up our penis’s before a show. –If you would like to learn more about what the day-to-day life of a Male Stripper is like, please read my other blog named ‘Body Maintenance as a Male Stripper’.
To answer this question – in relation to the topic of Male Strippers – there are many men out there with big penis’s that could never do what we do as performer so if you ask me, while confidence and a certain look is at the top of the list, a big penis is the last thing you need to be a great Male Stripper, especially when you have techniques like the ones listed above that can make it look bigger on the night.
When it comes to deciding if you want it to look way bigger than average though, it comes down to the individual and what his goal is in terms of the affect he wants to have on his audience. I myself like to leave the crowd speechless, but that’s just me.
As you can now see, there are times where this is more acceptable than others to get the unstoppable boner or at least most of the way there. But when we get down to it, it IS inappropriate, especially if you’ve chosen to be a Male Stripper for all the wrong reasons. If your performer is in the industry for the right reasons then he will eventually master the art of creating what I like to call, ‘the Full Semi’.
Written by: Tommy Desire
